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Jun 2024
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#20 - Attachment Theory: Secure Partners...

Shona Vertue
About this episode

Welcome back to another episode in our attachment theory series. In Part 3, we'll discuss secure attachment styles. Who are these elusive 'secure' individuals, and do they truly exist? What traits do they possess? How can you become more secure in your own relationships? While we'll examine the research, I'll also share some personal insights in this episode, all aimed at helping you establish and maintain healthier, happier relationships.


Resources:

Hazan, C., & Shaver, P. (1987). Romantic love conceptualized as an attachment process. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 52(3), 511-524.

Mikulincer, M., & Shaver, P. R. (2007). Attachment in Adulthood: Structure, Dynamics, and Change.


Not disucssed but open-access and well worth the read:

Spruit, A., Goos, L., Weenink, N. et al. The Relation Between Attachment and Depression in Children and Adolescents: A Multilevel Meta-Analysis. Clin Child Fam Psychol Rev 23, 54–69 (2020). https://doi.org/10.1007/s10567-019-00299-9


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