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May 2024
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Episode 295: Common Myths About Anal Sex...

DR. JUSTIN LEHMILLER
About this episode

Anal sex is something humans have been practicing for thousands of years. However, is has long been shrouded in taboos, which has led to the proliferation of a lot of myths and misconceptions. In today’s show, we’ll be discussing common things people get wrong about anal sex. Some of the topics we’ll explore include the myth of anal sex as “gay sex,” whether there’s any truth to the stereotype that anal sex roles correspond to power and gender roles, and whether there’s any truth to claims that anal sex causes long-term damage to the body.

My guest is Dr. Evan Goldstein, who is the Founder and CEO of Bespoke Surgical, a leading private practice specializing in an elite standard of sexual health and wellness care for the gay community. He is also co-founder of the sexual wellness brand Future Method and author of the new book Butt Seriously: The Definitive Guide to Anal Health, Pleasure, and Everything In Between.

Some of the topics we cover in this episode include:

  • Why is psychology an important aspect of pleasurable anal sex?
  • Who is having anal sex?
  • How risky is anal sex?
  • Is receptive anal sex necessarily a “submissive” activity?
  • What are the biggest things people get wrong about anal sex?

You can visit Evan’s website to learn more about him and his work.

Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology.

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