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May 2024
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The Fantasy and Reality of Threesomes wi...

Danielle Bezalel, MPH: Sex Educator | Pleasure Expert | Rom-Com Critic
About this episode
DB sits down with Dr. Justin Lehmiller to talk sexual fantasies, threesomes, and the impact of porn on our sex lives. Gain psychological insights into why we do what we do in the bedroom, and learn strategies for expressing your sexual fantasies to a partner. Plus, don't miss DB and Justin's advice to a listener hoping to improve their body image!
 
16:02 Improving relationships through sexual Ffntasies
25:46 Debunking the myth of porn addiction
29:53 Psychological insights into human sexual behavior
36:31 The fantasy and reality of threesomes
47:28 Listener voicemail- how do I improve my body image?
 
Dr. Justin Lehmiller is a social psychologist and Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute. He runs the Sex and Psychology blog and podcast and is author of the popular book Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life. Dr. Lehmiller is an award-winning educator, having been honored three times with the Certificate of Teaching Excellence from Harvard University, where he taught for several years. He is also a prolific researcher who has published more than 50 academic works, including a textbook titled The Psychology of Human Sexuality that is used in college classrooms around the world.
 
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