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May 2023
55m 38s

99. S8 E7: Finding freedom after autism ...

Amy Richards
About this episode

Kay Louise Aldred is a writer, facilitator, teacher, mentor, and resource creator from North Yorkshire in the UK. Now 49, she was diagnosed autistic quite recently, last November.

A former teacher, just like me she suffered burnout, left her career and became self employed before discovering her autism. Now she and her husband are co-authoring a book, Embodied Education: Creating Safe Space for Learning, Facilitating and Sharing, which will be available late autumn 2023.

She has worked with children and adults in educational, retreat and wellness settings throughout her career, has taught 11-18 year old neurodiverse students and has parented neurodivergent children of her own.

She is an advocate for safe, nervous-system-friendly structures in education, learning and sharing spaces and is passionate about increasing awareness of the gifts of neurodivergence.

In our conversation we talk about:

➡ Being undiagnosed autistic teachers

➡ Learning to advocate for herself with her family

➡ Her experience of burnout and recovery, and tools for self-regulation 

➡ What autism-informed education looks like

➡ Her thoughts and ideas about autism and trauma, religion and spirituality and masking

CONTENT WARNING: towards the end of our conversation Kay talks briefly about a sexual assault. She doesn't go into detail, but if this is something you'd rather not hear about, you should skip from 50:39 to 52:53.

Squarepeg is a podcast in which neurodivergent women, and trans and nonbinary people, explore navigating a neurotypical world and share their insights, challenges and successes.

I hope that these conversations will be inspiring and thought provoking, open you up to new ways of thinking about being neurodivergent, and help you feel more connected to a worldwide community of people with similar experiences.

I'm Amy Richards, and after being diagnosed autistic at the age of 37 I'm now on a mission to learn more about different perspectives and issues around being a neurodivergent adult in a world that feels like it doesn't quite fit.

 

EPISODE LINKS:

Kay's website: https://kaylouisealdred.com 

Her book: https://www.thegirlgod.com/embodied_education.php

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kaylouisealdred/ 

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kaylouisealdred 

Twitter: https://twitter.com/kaylouisealdred 

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kay-louise-aldred-ma-pgce-87542716b/

 

If you'd like to connect or get in touch with Squarepeg, you can find me on:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/squarepeg.community/

Twitter: https://twitter.com/squarepegautism 

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/squarepegautism/ 

Or on my website: https://squarepeg.community/ 

 

THANK YOU TO MY PATRONS!

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