logo
episode-header-image
Apr 2024
1h 34m

#26: Unbecoming – The Journey of Reconne...

James Xander
About this episode

✨ May 2025 Invitation ✨ Doors to Unlock God Mode are now open! 
 

This is your invitation to step into a new way of being.

Unlock God Mode is a 30-day audio course + monthly membership designed to help you rewire your identity, elevate your frequency, and become the version of you who effortlessly manifests from alignment, clarity, and power.

When you join, you’ll get:

  • 30 transformational audio lessons (one per day)
  • Daily Feeling Amplifiers to shift your state instantly
  • Access to the private God Mode Portal (member-only transmissions + teachings)
  • Full Workshop Library on wealth, manifestation, self-concept & more
  • Lifetime access to the private Telegram channel
  • And right now — a free 1:1 coaching session with James for new members

All for just $97/month — cancel anytime.

This isn’t just another course.

It’s a portal into the life your soul has been calling you toward.


Start your journey now at unlockgodmode.org


----------------------


Episode 26 — Acclaimed author and keynote speaker Dorota Stańczyk (@dorotastanczykart) joins James Xander (@emperorjames) on The James Xander Trip podcast for a profound exploration of the heart, the nuances of self-love, the truth behind rejection, dropping our masks, and healing from the conditioning that shapes us.

Together, we tackle the tough questions about the nature of emotions, why we often betray ourselves, navigating the emotion of anger, understanding people-pleasing tendencies, how to create alignment in each moment, and staying connected to the Divine.

Thank you Dorota for your profound wisdom and presence. It was an absolute pleasure to have you on The James Xander Trip!

Watch the full conversation on YouTube »

Subscribe to the @jamesxandertrip YouTube for future episodes!

CHAPTERS:

  • (00:00) - Introduction
  • (02:50) - What Does Self-Love Mean to You?
  • (06:17) - Life Is All About Unbecoming
  • (09:38) - The Ego Is a Defense Mechanism
  • (11:53) - Dorota's Healing Journey
  • (14:13) - The Moment of Surrender
  • (16:20) - Our Body Is Designed to Heal Itself
  • (20:45) - Full Acceptance Is Necessary for Healing
  • (24:30) - Dorota's Deepest Realization During Vipassana
  • (25:35) - Everything Exists in a Perfect Polarity
  • (27:38) - Stay in Your Center
  • (28:45) - What Is Present for You?
  • (31:06) - Self Love vs Self Worth
  • (34:53) - Why Do We Betray Ourselves?
  • (36:39) - The Truth About Rejection
  • (38:10) - The Biggest Rejection We Fear Is Our Own
  • (41:23) - Why Do We People-Please?
  • (43:21) - How To Say No to Others
  • (44:24) - Alignment Creates Alignment
  • (45:53) - What Is Anger?
  • (48:38) - Why Are You Triggered?
  • (51:00) - Projections, Judgements, and The Truth
  • (55:18) - Falling in Love with Ideas vs the Truth (Biggest Lesson in Relationships)
  • (01:01:31) - Being Honest with Yourself
  • (01:03:52) - Dropping Your Expectations
  • (01:05:33) - We Are Always Mirroring Each Other
  • (01:06:37) - Allowing Others To Be As They Are
  • (01:09:31) - Protection Is Creating Separation
  • (01:11:49) - The Moment of True Acceptance
  • (01:14:28) - The Light and Dark Within Us All
  • (01:17:18) - Forgiving Ourselves for Past Mistakes
  • (01:20:46) - Psychedelics, Plant Medicine, Breathwork, Meditation
  • (01:23:26) - Theta Meditations
  • (01:26:45) - Altered States of Consciousness & Connecting with Source
  • (01:30:04) - Final Piece of Advice
  • (01:31:32) - Conclusion & Re-create Yourself Book

Connect with Dorota Stanczyk:
Instagram
Website
YouTube

In this episode, we dive into:

• Importance of self-love and self-awareness
• Unconditional acceptance and surrender in healing and reconnecting with wholeness
• The concept of unbecoming and embracing all aspects of oneself
• The impact of childhood experiences on self-love and self-awareness
• The journey of reconnecting with wholeness and unlearning societal conditioning
• The difference between self-love and self-worth
• The concept of dropping masks and not cheating on oneself
• Balancing acceptance and compatibility in relationships
• The impact of energy dynamics and mirroring in relationships
• The role of altered states of consciousness in the journey of self-discovery


About the Podcast:
The James Xander Trip explores the intersection of psychedelics, personal growth, and spirituality. Subscribe for more conversations that inspire transformation and alignment. Visit jamesxandertrip.com to join the newsletter.

Support the podcast:
• Share this episode with a friend 🙏
• Rate, review, and follow the podcast
• Subscribe to the YouTube channel
• Subscribe to the Telegram channel  

RESOURCES:

Follow my YouTube channel
Download The Mushroom Trip Checklist
Access The Mushroom Playlists
Join my free newsletter
Dive deeper with Unlock God Mode
Guidance: Work with me 1:1
Join the free Telegram channel

Connect with James Xander:
YouTube
Instagram
Newsletter
Twitter
Official Site
Telegram

1:1 GUIDANCE
Book a consultation call with James

Join my cosmic newsletter

---

Unlock God Mode is a unique, 30-day course designed to elevate your reality creation skills and align you with your deepest desires. Join this tranformative audio course designed to help you connect deeply with life and achieve your goals with clarity and purpose.

» Learn more at unlockgodmode.org «

Up next
Jul 3
#58: Debra Silverman: Why You Chose This Life & The Soul Contract You Forgot You Signed
The God Mode Retreat (August 20–24) - godmoderetreats.com5 days, 4 nights in Manggis, Bali, surrounded by beautiful jungle, ocean, and mountains.10 committed souls. Plant medicine. Consciousness shifts. Deep inner work.Will you be one of the 10? Learn more at GodModeRetreats.com- ... Show More
55m 3s
Jun 6
Why Did I Create The God Mode Retreat?
→ Learn more about The God Mode Retreat here: godmoderetreats.comIn this episode, I open up about the real reason behind creating The God Mode Retreat in Bali.Yes — there’s the obvious: five days of transformation, powerful workshops, and a sacred mushroom ceremony held in a safe ... Show More
9m 27s
May 27
You’re Invited to the First God Mode Retreat
This episode is different — because something big is opening.After months of preparation, I’m finally announcing two powerful portals for those of you ready to go deeper into your evolution.The first is my God Mode Retreat — a 5-day transformational immersion in Bali for soul-led ... Show More
7m 20s
Recommended Episodes
Jun 6
Why Did I Create The God Mode Retreat?
→ Learn more about The God Mode Retreat here: godmoderetreats.comIn this episode, I open up about the real reason behind creating The God Mode Retreat in Bali.Yes — there’s the obvious: five days of transformation, powerful workshops, and a sacred mushroom ceremony held in a safe ... Show More
9m 27s
Jun 6
Why Did I Create The God Mode Retreat?
→ Learn more about The God Mode Retreat here: godmoderetreats.comIn this episode, I open up about the real reason behind creating The God Mode Retreat in Bali.Yes — there’s the obvious: five days of transformation, powerful workshops, and a sacred mushroom ceremony held in a safe ... Show More
9m 27s
May 27
You’re Invited to the First God Mode Retreat
This episode is different — because something big is opening.After months of preparation, I’m finally announcing two powerful portals for those of you ready to go deeper into your evolution.The first is my God Mode Retreat — a 5-day transformational immersion in Bali for soul-led ... Show More
7m 20s
Feb 2025
The Hidden Beauty of Pain: Lessons from an Ayahuasca Journey
The God Mode Retreat (August 20–24) - godmoderetreats.com5 days, 4 nights in Manggis, Bali, surrounded by beautiful jungle, ocean, and mountains.10 committed souls. Plant medicine. Consciousness shifts. Deep inner work.Will you be one of the 10? Learn more at GodModeRetreats.com- ... Show More
11m 9s
Aug 2024
Unlocking Life’s Mysteries: Purpose, Past Lives & Manifestation with Matias De Stefano | EP 49
In this episode of Healing & Human Potential, we're helping you discover your true purpose and exploring the deeper questions like why we're here + what happens after we die. You will not be the same after watching this episode!   Join me and Matias De Stefano, a spiritual leader ... Show More
1h 44m
Jan 2025
Living a Fulfilled Life Without Attachment: Lessons in Spiritual Detachment
Today’s Life Question comes from Gary, who wants to know if wanting to live a better life is the same as being “attached to an outcome.” For practical spiritual insight and encouragement regarding your relationships, finances, life purpose, or understanding of world events, submi ... Show More
5m 4s
Nov 2020
You are here to learn and grow
Send us a text#46 In this episode I will be sharing about Spiritual Truth #2  You Are Here To Learn & Grow. I have been sharing the top 5 things that we all have in common with humankind. These truths are from the eBook You, Your Purpose, & Your Intuition from the New Spiritual H ... Show More
9m 57s
Jun 2020
My Home in the Universe
Send us a text#4: Join Teresa as she shares a story about her obsession with space and heading back home. She ventures off into some sharings on what "heading back home" means to her and the "why on earth are we here?" This episode is fast, fun and dynamic. It will give you anoth ... Show More
9m 45s
Feb 2025
My 5th Ayahuasca Trip Stunned Me - Wow
Follow my new podcast here: Spotify | Apple Podcasts | All platforms  This month, come join me each morning in a daily morning prayer & activation, designed to align your soul, mind, and body with the Infinite Spirit. 🤍✨🙏  -------------------------------------  ★ Get my free mu ... Show More
13m 48s
Dec 2024
End of an Era ✨ Part 2 ✨ Finale Solo with 22 Seeds of Magic
Thank you for 7 magical years! Episode 444 marks the end of an era before I take a long hiatus. In this finale, I get behind the mic for a solo show to share 22 seeds of magic that I’ve gathered over the years. A collection of lessons on growth, healing, creativity, and self-disc ... Show More
29m 2s