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Apr 2024
11m 31s

How to ditch your people-pleasing-parent...

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Instead of reacting with fight, flight, or freeze, some parents respond with fawning, a pattern of people-pleasing and appeasement in the face of conflict. As a fawning parent, you might prioritize maintaining harmony and avoid confrontation, even if it means sacrificing your own needs or values. This can make it difficult to assert boundaries, collaborate, or hold space for your child's emotions. In today's episode, Dr. Coor delves into the complexities of fawning and how your child's behavior can sometimes trigger intense emotional reactions within you and how you can begin to heal. 

Project Parenthood is hosted by Dr. Nanika Coor. A transcript is available at Simplecast.

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