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Mar 2024
1h 25m

A Guide For the Traumatized

Meghan Daum & Sarah Haider
About this episode

This week, the girls/women are joined by writer Larissa Phillips, and the three discuss her recent essay in which she recounts her violent rape in the early 90s. Larissa shares her thoughts on the helpfulness of “trauma” discourse on recovery, the #metoo era, and the tension between personal responsibility and public trust.

They also touch on Larissa’s work in adult literacy, a subject Sarah finds especially interesting, as she’s still learning how to read.

Relevant Links

Larissa’s Essay in Quillette  

After Rape: A Guide for the Tormented by Celeste Marcus

On Not Being A Victim by Mary Gaitskill, Harper’s Magazine, March 1994 

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