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Mar 2024
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Dr. Ramani: 2 Signs You are Being Love B...

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Why do we fall victim to love bombing?

Why do we attract narcissists?

Dr. Ramani is back with eye-opening and science-based insights on narcissism. Dr. Ramani is a licensed clinical psychologist, Professor Emerita of Psychology at California State University Los Angeles, and the Founder and CEO of LUNA Education, Training & Consulting. 

Dr. Ramani discusses the difference between narcissism versus narcissistic personality disorder. She dives into the signs of love bombing and how to stop attracting narcissists. Dr. Ramani also talks about the practical strategies for safeguarding yourself from attracting narcissistic personalities into your life and how to spot the red flags and establish healthy boundaries. 
Join us in understanding the complexities of narcissism, how to foster resilience, establish boundaries, and reclaim yourself.

With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro
01:09 Narcissism Versus Narcissistic Personality Disorder
05:41 Why Narcissistic People Make History
09:28 How to Not Attract a Narcissist
11:27 A Narcissistic Person is Like a Volcano
14:38 Love Bombing is Winning You Over with Attunement
15:24 From Love Bombing to What Went Wrong 
18:11 Empaths Get Stuck in Trauma-Bonded Relationships
21:45 The Impact of Narcissistic Abuse
25:29 Can You Disengage from a Narcissistic Partner?
26:36 Repeat Perpetrators Harm the Forgiver
28:21 You Can Empathize and Not Forgive
30:42 What is Radical Acceptance?
32:39 Flexibility in Our Psyche
35:20 Grief is the Most Human Experience
38:06 How to Recreate Your Own Subjective Focus
44:13 How to Pull Yourself from any Form of Gaslighting
48:58 Can a Narcissist Ever Heal?
53:38 Is Change Possible?

Episode Resources:
Dr. Ramani | Website

Dr. Ramani | Instagram
Dr. Ramani | YouTube
Dr. Ramani | TikTok
It's Not You: Identifying and Healing from Narcissistic People

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