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Feb 2024
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Boundaries

Kirk Honda
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Dr Kirk Honda lectures about systems theory, boundaries, routines, feedback, cybernetics, differentiation, etc.

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00:00 What are boundaries & limits?

21:40 Co-opting respected terms

28:01 What was the original purpose of trigger warnings?

37:08 The rise of the self-help realm

42:30 Where did boundaries come from?

53:32 Does the concept of boundaries exist in modern therapy?

1:02:35 How does differentiation apply?

1:06:37 Does Dr. Kirk feel safe podcasting?

1:18:39 An exercise in thinking systemically


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February 26, 2024

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