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Feb 2024
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Sunday Special: Un-Marry Me!

The New York Times
About this episode

Today we’re sharing the latest episode of Modern Love, a podcast about the complicated love lives of real people, from The New York Times.

Anna Martin, host of the show, spoke to David Finch, who wrote three Modern Love essays about how hard he had worked to be a good husband to his wife, Kristen. As a man with autism who married a neurotypical woman, Dave found it challenging to navigate being a partner and a father. Eventually, he started keeping a list of “best practices” to cover every situation that might come up in daily life – a method that worked so well he wrote a best-selling book on it.

But almost 11 years into his marriage, Kristen said she wanted to be “unmarried.” Dave was totally thrown off. He didn’t know what that meant, or if he could do it. But he wasn’t going to lose Kristen, so he had to give it a try.

For more episodes of Modern Love, search for the show wherever you get your podcasts. New episodes drop Wednesdays. 

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