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Jan 2024
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2606: 5 Rules for Having a Constructive ...

Optimal Living Daily | Diania Merriam
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Episode 2606:

Kyle Benson from Gottman.com explores the complexities of financial conflicts in relationships, emphasizing that disagreements about money often stem from differing values and meanings attached to it. He offers five rules for having constructive conversations about money, focusing on mutual understanding, respect, and validation rather than mere persuasion or argument.

Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.gottman.com/blog/5-rules-constructive-conflict-conversation-money/

Quotes to ponder:

"Conflicts about money in a marriage aren’t really about money. Most arguments are about what money means to each person in the relationship."

"Happy couples start conflict conversations gently and allow their partner to influence them."

"There is only one essential assumption that will make the conversation about hurt feelings or the aftermath of a fight workout constructively: that in every disagreement or miscommunication, there are always two points of view, and they are both valid."

Episode references:

The Intimate Enemy by George Bach: https://www.amazon.com/Intimate-Enemy-Fight-Fair-Marriage/dp/068801884X

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