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Jan 2024
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E695 Ask Nick - I’m Attractive, You’re J...

Nick Viall
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Welcome back to another episode of The Viall Files: Ask Nick Edition! We’re back to answer your burning questions about the world of dating and relationships. Before getting to our callers, Ali shares her near-death experience getting locked outside of the house at night, without a jacket, and in the snow… Then we get to our callers.

Our first caller is getting mixed signals from one of his guy friends. “If I was gay, I’d be into you”... is he in the closet, or just very friendly? Our second caller met his girlfriend on Twitter, and is struggling with their 800 mile long-distance relationship. She said she was fine with him dating other people, but he’s ready to commit to her. Our final caller has a boyfriend who struggles with alcohol, lashes out, and “doesn’t always find her attractive.” She doesn't know how to kick him out, because he lives in her house and can’t afford the rent.  

“Embrace being the bad guy, but don’t feel bad about it. Embrace standing up for yourself.”

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