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Jan 2024
49m 12s

How to Use Money to Embrace Your Identit...

Shari Rash, Money Podcast for Women, Personal Finance, Relationships & Mental Health
About this episode

Did you know there are three ways you spend money based on your identity? You either spend money to escape, belong, or embrace your identity. Before you go second guessing how you spend your money, our guest, Ellyse Fulmore, author of the new book, Keep Money Personal and a queer and neurodivergent financial educator, content creator, and the founder of Queerd Co., a financial literacy company, wants you to set down the shoulds and the shame around money and start embracing your identity. This powerful conversation about Ellyce’s money journey inspired her book. Ellyce came out as Queer and was diagnosed with ADHD, and this had a profound impact on how she uses her money to show up in the world. We talk about it all, including the impact of shame and societal expectations on your money, why understanding your money story can help you spend to embrace your identity, and how to create a money system that works for your brain. This is such an important conversation, and I hope you’re inspired to share it with your friends so we can start to change the narrative around money. 

Links

Keeping Finance Personal book

Ellyce's website


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Takeaways

  • Shame and societal expectations often lead to negative thoughts and behaviors around money. Understanding our money story and reframing our mindset can help us overcome these challenges.
  • Creating a personalized money system that aligns with our unique needs and preferences is crucial for financial success.
  • Money is deeply intertwined with our identity, and it is important to spend in a way that embraces and supports who we truly are.
  • Financial education should be more inclusive, diverse, and accessible, with a focus on individual experiences and needs.
  • Overcoming shame and shoulds requires open conversations about money, transparency, and a supportive community.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction

00:38 Shame and the Shoulds

06:16 Creating a Personal Money System

15:36 Money and Identity

25:34 Money and Neurodivergence

35:43 Overcoming Shame and Shoulds


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