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Dec 2023
1h 8m

Esther Perel's SECRET FORMULA for Desire...

Lewis Howes
About this episode

Psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author, Esther Perel is recognized as one of today’s most insightful and original voices on modern relationships. Fluent in nine languages, she helms a therapy practice in New York City and serves as an organizational consultant for Fortune 500 companies worldwide. 

Her celebrated TED talks have garnered more than 20 million views and helped people worldwide navigate their relationships. Her international bestseller Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence has become a global phenomenon translated into 25 languages. Esther Perel is also a New York Times best-selling author of, The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity, a book that took a provocative look at relationships through the lens of infidelity. 

Dr. Perel is also an executive producer and host of the popular podcast Where Should We Begin? — a podcast for anyone who has ever loved — where she gives her perspective on the invisible forces that shape the connections, dynamics, and conflicts in relationships.

In this episode you will learn

  • The major challenges people encounter in relationships and how to navigate through them.
  • Common misconceptions in dating and how to approach relationships with a healthier mindset.
  • Why infidelity can occur even in seemingly happy relationships and the underlying factors behind it.
  • Insights into rebuilding trust in a relationship, even after it has been broken.
  • The essential expectations to set in your relationships for a stronger, more fulfilling connection.

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