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Nov 2023
54m 44s

122. Jess and Pasha the End of an Era

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About this episode

In this episode of the Open Late Podcast, after more than a year, Jess welcomes back Pasha, her husband and highly requested guest. Together, they open up about the challenges they've faced and conquered, sharing the intimate details of how they navigated and overcame the struggles that life threw their way. They explore the topic of workaholism, shedding light on how it can impact not only one's personal life but also their relationship, emphasizing the potential consequences when a relationship isn't actively nurtured. They speak openly about their decision to seek therapy, offering insights into why they embarked on this journey together and what they've learned along the way. They also express views on jealousy, discussing how to handle it and why confronting it is important. With the anticipation of their twins' arrival, Jess and Pasha take us through their preparations, they also share their biggest fears and concerns as they look ahead to becoming parents to two precious babies. Furthermore, Jess and Pasha generously devote time to respond to questions from their listeners, offering thoughtful and practical advice on a range of topics, including relationship dynamics and life's unpredictable twists and turns.


In this Episode of Open Late:

  • Raw insights and dynamics of a polyamorous marriage
  • Overcoming personal challenges and addressing jealousy
  • The impact of workaholism on your relationship
  • Couples Therapy and why is it okay to seek it
  • Preparations for the twins and the biggest fears


Mentioned in the Episode:

• Podcast: Your Partner is NOT your superhero


Connect with Pasha:

• Instagram: @pashaesfandiary


Connect with Jessica:

• Instagram: @journey.with.jessica | @openlatethepodcast

• Website: openlatepodcast.com 

• YouTube: Open Late Podcast

• What's my relationship style? Take the Open Late Quiz

• Join our free chat community, "Open Talks" on WhatsApp

Open Late Dictionary

5:18 We've always been like such an open book with each other, and that's always worked for us because we love open communication. We love to over communicate, and we never wanted to have any secrets. - Jessica Esfandiary

6:20 I'm looking for something meaningful right now. I'm not looking for just hookups. - Pasha Esfandiary

9:46 Specially moving into this season of becoming a mom is like, I know how sacred my energy is and I dont have a lot of it right now - Jessica Esfandiary 

16:09 I think that I and you as well took our relationship for granted and didn't realize that it was like its own living organism that needed care and attention and focus truly, and that it needs to have like energy poured into it. - Jessica Esfandiary

18:48 I think it's really important to know that I've made a massive effort that after five or 6:00, there's no work. - Pasha Esfandiary

23:09 Jealousy is a tool and an indicator to something that you can work on that is deeper and more prevalent -Pasha Esfandiary

40:33 At some point any new partner you get will not satisfy every single one of your needs to the way that we have dreamed up in our society. - Pasha Esfandiary

44:08 Being with other people can create more desire and chemistry within your own relationship -Jessica Esfandiary 

49:17 People become more understanding with education and just if you're authentic, they're going to be authentic too. - Pasha Esfandiary

51:58 I do see myself coming back and see this show growing and evolving with me as I become a mom, a polyamorous mother of twins. - Jessica Esfandiary

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