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Oct 2023
1h 1m

When Your Heavenly Father Isn't

Sven Erlandson
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Madi is a person of faith, and in pain over family pressure to maintain a relationship with her father, who she describes as a "shit person." Hearing her heartbreaking story, Sven guides her to understand that what she considered as simply being a low priority was actually serious abuse. Madi feels pressure to forgive, but her father's cruelty and overwhelming hypocrisy make it difficult or impossible. Sven (a former pastor) provides keen insight on the complexity of forgiveness, and the dangers of using a narrow interpretation of the Bible to control and exploit others. Listen for Madi's epiphany, and cheer her on! Explicit content.

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