In this insightful interview, I am joined by my friend and co-author Dr. William Stixrud to speak with child development specialist Dr. Robyn Silverman. We discuss her new book, How to Talk with Kids About Anything. We dive into tough but critical conversations like handling big emotions, building self-esteem, making mistakes, and forming friendships. Dr. Silverman shares valuable advice and scripts for connecting with kids through their triumphs and tribulations. Her vast experience and research is distilled into an accessible guide for parents and caregivers. Don’t miss her incredible insights on empowering kids to handle life’s ups and downs. This conversation overflows with compassion and tools to foster healthy communication.
Dr. Robyn Silverman is a renowned child and teen development specialist seen frequently on national television programs. Her podcast “How to Talk with Kids About Anything” offers incredible wisdom from leading experts. Dr. William Stixrud and I have been guests sharing approaches from The Self-Driven Child. Now we have the tables turned and get to ask Dr. Silverman about her must-read new book.
Timeline Summary:
[02:26] – Starting the podcast after being bullied as a child when adults didn’t know what to say.
[05:00] – The importance of giving kids words and understanding to handle life’s challenges.
[06:28] – Emotional inhibition and invalidation lead kids to become more dysregulated over time.
[08:33] – Discussing the benefits and catharsis of expressing sadness.
[09:47] – Anger often masks hurt; getting underneath to find the real issue.
[12:36] – Assuring kids of unconditional love, regardless of mistakes.
[17:11] – Identifying when sadness becomes persistent depression.
[19:39] – Allowing kids to go through the “tunnel” of hard feelings is better than taking those feelings away.
[22:58] – Fostering self-esteem by celebrating kids’ unique strengths.
[26:51] – Toxic perfectionism and low self-esteem start early and plague high achievers.
[30:15] – The power of observing vs praise in building kids’ self-esteem.
[33:08] – Guiding kids to recognize and leave toxic friendships.
[35:58] – Sharing stories of famous failures to reframe mistakes as learning.
[40:04] – Modeling imperfection and apologies fosters empathy in kids.
[44:40] – Long parenting relationships mean we keep learning as kids grow.
Connect with Dr. Robyn Silverman:
· Robyn’s Podcast: How to Talk to Kids About Anything
· Robyn’s Book: How to Talk with Kids About Anything
Links & Resources:
· Book: Raising a Kid Who Can
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