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Sep 2023
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Episode 227: The Ins and Outs of Anal Se...

DR. JUSTIN LEHMILLER
About this episode
Despite the fact that anal sex has become an increasingly common sexual activity, it’s a subject that continues to be ignored in almost all sex education. As a result, people generally have to learn about it all on their own, and there can be a bit of a learning curve. In today’s show, we’re going to explore how to approach this activity in ways that are safe and pleasurable, as well as some common myths and misconceptions surrounding it. My guest is Dr. Thomas Gaither, a physician who is currently finishing up his urology residency at UCLA. In addition to conducting research on LGBT health and sexual medicine, he is an active TikTok creator teaching the masses about sexual health. You can find him on TikTok at that_prostate_doc. Some of the topics we explore include:
  • How many people practice anal sex?
  • Why do people engage in anal sex? What do they get out of it?
  • Is there any truth to the idea that anal sex causes long-term damage to the body?
  • What should someone do if they experience pain during this activity?
  • If someone is interested in trying anal sex for the first time, what do they need to know?
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