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Sep 2023
39m 54s

Episode 224: The Appeal of the MILF

DR. JUSTIN LEHMILLER
About this episode
MILF is one of the most searched for terms on popular porn sites year after year. So why are so many heterosexual guys drawn to hot, middle-aged mother figures? In the previous episode, we talked a bit about why older women are drawn to younger guys; so in this show, we’re going to explore the opposite perspective. We’re also going to dive a little further into the reality series MILF Manor and discuss why you can make a show about older women seeking younger guys, but you could never make a show about older men seeking younger women. I am joined once again by Ashley Weller, a Human Sexuality and Health Psychology Professor at Chapman University in Southern California. She also has a podcast called What's Your Position which tackles issues surrounding sexuality, relationships, life, and love from a comedic yet educational point of view. Some of the topics we explore include:
  • Why do so many young guys find MILFs to be so hot?
  • What actually makes someone a "MILF" anyway? Is it about age? Confidence? Something else?
  • Why are age-gap relationships becoming more acceptable when the older partner is a woman, but less acceptable when the older partner is a man?
  • We also explore the wide range of reactions the male contestants had to being on MILF Manor, what this show tells us about sex ed and sexual communication, the sexual double standard, and more.
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