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Aug 2023
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Reframe Conversation: Masturbation (#167...

Francie Winslow
About this episode

Is masturbation right or wrong? There’s a healthy pause that comes with answering this question because it’s quite layered and there isn’t scripture that provides a firm answer. Yet, we know that all things are permissible, but not all things are beneficial. 

 

In this conversation we’ll take a bigger picture view at the issues involved. Touching yourself or doing something in private that you want to keep secret is riddled with shame and not helpful to your marriage connection. On the contrary, the idea of believing your body is good as you desire body awareness and self cultivation for the sake of sharing it with your husband can be beneficial and promote healthy connection.

 

Listen in and bring this conversation to the Lord and your own marriage.

Resources Mentioned:

Unlock Your Orgasm: Through a Christian Lens, Bonny Burns

 

Related Episodes:

Pleasure & Orgasm with Bonny Burns, Ep 136 Female Sexuality & Growth with Nancy Houston, Ep 157 Pleasure Series Pt. 2: Female Anatomy, Orgasm 101 and Guiding Your Husband to Your Pleasure with with Dr. Jennifer Degler, Ep 93

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Keep learning with Francie! Join the Discipleship Circle group mentorship. This is a SWEET community of women, connected with the purpose of seeking God’s heart for their reclaiming a redeemed view of sex and sexuality. Inside the circle, we will explore and discover the good news about God’s heart for sex. Learn more here: Discipleship Circle

 

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