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Aug 2023
1h 43m

Not everything happens for a reason. Gri...

BRITTANY HOCKLEY AND LAURA BYRNE
About this episode

Hey Lifers!

It's Britt and Keeshia's birthday! The conversation around milestone anxiety (especially because one of them is turning the big 3-0) rears it's head again. Laura & Producer Keeshia unpack whether Keeshia's joy around her birthday this year is linked to being in a relationship & what it means we need to be doing for our single friends on their birthdays!

There's a new study that has shown that (in hetero relationships) men are more commonly the first to say "I love you." A particularly interesting part of the study showed that it usually takes 69 days for them to say it... we're not the ones crunching the numbers here.
Then we get into a truly great interview with Lotte Bowser.

Lotte Bowser is a writer and podcaster. It was a modern day romance where two people both swiped right and fell in love almost instantly. They moved in together, they travelled together, they got engaged and then in 2019 Ben was diagnosed with terminal cancer. In late 2020, Ben died and Lotte had to 'say goodbye' from a hazmat suit. Lotte has had to learn how to navigate life as a young widow and how to move forward with her life.

In this chat we speak about:
-The stages of grief are bullshit
-Grief can be so isolating and so lonely
-How to support someone through the loss of someone, and also what not to do
-Finding purpose and moving forward after someone you love has died

Lotte has co-written a grief workbook called “Now, what?” with friend of the podcast and host of Darling Shine Ellidy Pullin and is currently writing a book of her own. 
You can follow her journey here

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