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Aug 2023
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E621 Ask Nick - I Think I’m Emotionally ...

Nick Viall
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Welcome back to another episode of The Viall Files: Ask Nick Edition! We’re back to answer your burning questions about the world of dating and relationships. Before getting to our callers, we discuss the Women’s World Cup, a woman who turned down an ice cream date for being the “bare-minimum,” and the deadly power of icks. We then get to our callers. 

Our first caller has been dating someone for a month, and she’s worried she’s becoming emotionally abusive. She’s toeing the line between asking for what she wants and demanding unrealistic expectations, and isn’t sure what is too much. Our second caller is three months post break-up and is wondering whether he should reach out and fight for her. After his 8-year relationship ended, he’s not ready to give up, and wants to know if and how he can save what he’s lost. Our final caller’s best friend has been cheating on her boyfriend, and she’s not sure what to do. She loves her friend, and is worried about her friend group of enablers, but can’t stand by and watch her exhibit this toxic behavior. 

“Just because you’re sad, doesn’t make them special.” 

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