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Jul 2023
1h 47m

Dating an Asexual (w/ Gigi Goode)

Headgum & Nicole Byer
About this episode

Drag queen Gigi Goode (Drag Race S12) joins Nicole for a supersized live episode of the podcast! They talk about her trans journey during the pandemic, how the type of people who are attracted to her has changed since transitioning, making friends through Tinder, and shares her experience being in a long term relationship with a partner who's asexual. She also tells just so many, bad, no awful, date stories.  

Plus, an audience Q&A: Do queens get cozy on the set of Drag Race? Is it possible to date someone you're not attracted to? What's the best one-liner for a dating app? Dive in to find out!

Recorded live at The Elysian 4/5/2023.

 

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