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Jul 2023
34m 24s

Episode 207: The History of Kinky Sex

DR. JUSTIN LEHMILLER
About this episode
It turns out that for as long as humans have been having sex, they’ve been having pretty kinky sex! So let's talk about our kinky history. In today's episode, we’re going to explore the history of BDSM, the origins of the dildo and vibrator (and how they came to be so popular), the world’s first pornographic novel (Memoirs of a Woman of Pleasure), and more. All of these things have fascinating stories behind them—and learning about them can help us to better understand modern human sexuality. I am joined by Esmé Louise James, who is best known for her series Kinky History, which has amassed nearly 3 million followers across her social media accounts. Esmé is a PhD candidate at the University of Melbourne and author of the upcoming book Kinky History: The Stories Behind Our Intimate Lives, Past and Present. She also hosts the popular Kinky History podcast. Some of the topics we discuss include:
  • Why is it important for us to understand kinky history in a way that isn't centered around shame and gossip?
  • How long have humans been into kink and BDSM?
  • When did humans start making dildos?
  • What are the origins of the vibrator, and how did it come to be so popular?
  • What is the significance of the book Memoirs of a Woman of Pleasure?
  • What is a day in the life of a sex historian like?
To learn more, check out Esmé's website, and stay connected with her on Instagram, Twitter, and TikTok. Thank you to our sponsors! Are you passionate about building a career in sexuality? Check out the Sexual Health Alliance. With SHA, you'll connect with world-class experts and join an engaged community of sexuality professionals from around the world. Visit SexualHealthAlliance.com and start building the sexuality career of your dreams today. Support sex science by becoming a friend of the Kinsey Institute at Indiana University. Visit kinseyinstitute.org to make a donation to support ongoing research projects on critical topics. You can also show your support by following the Kinsey Institute on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram. ***

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