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Jun 2023
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3 Traits that Negatively Affect Our Thou...

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About this episode

Have you ever found yourself questioning your current path and wondering if it truly aligns with your purpose? 

Are you looking for the signs that will lead you discovering your true self and finding genuine love?

Then this podcast episode is for you. 

I am going to share with you a transformational and life-changing conversation I had with Violetta Benson. Violetta, also known as Daddy Issues, gained popularity for her humorous memes, witty captions, and comedic videos that often revolve around dating, relationships, and everyday life experiences. 

With mindful awareness, we uncover the three negative habits that hinder our personal growth and learn how to replace them with empowering practices. We also dive into the multifaceted nature of love and its diverse expressions throughout our lives.

While fear holds us back from forming deep connections, there is power in being alone, and using solitude as an opportunity for self-discovery and embracing your true self. Embark on an exploration of love's different stages - finding it, letting go, and nurturing its flame.  

From this episode, you will learn:

- The importance of adapting to changes

- How to avoid projecting our limitations to others

- How to spot the negative habits that blocks personal growth

- How to make wise and well-thought of decisions

- The diversity of love and its many forms

- How to create deeper and more meaningful connections

It's time to cultivate the relationships and personal growth you deserve. 

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

Listen to the original interview & other hilarious growing up stories and self love tips on Almost Adulting

What We Discuss:

  • 00:00 Intro
  • 02:15 When you realize that what you're currently doing doesn't truly align with your purpose, would you be open to change?
  • 06:26 What’s the worst advice you’ve ever received? Did you follow it?
  • 08:04 Why do we often project our limits, our insecurities, and our issues to other people?
  • 11:03 The three things we do negatively that we should be mindful of
  • 12:45 There are fours things we go through everyday or at any point in our lives
  • 16:36 The analogy of the doors in our life that closes and the ones that stay open
  • 24:04 Sometimes, it’s better to slow down and pause than make quick but unwise decisions
  • 28:31 Two biggest lies you should stop telling yourself today
  • 33:44 When you carry around hatred and choose not to forgive people, there’s no space to receive love and connections
  • 36:26 This is what happens when you don’t wait for love to be given, you openly give it to the people important to you
  • 39:00 The different forms of love and how we experience it throughout our life
  • 41:38 Love isn’t just a feeling or an emotion, it is a skill and a practice
  • 46:20 Is fear holding us back from forming a connection? Is it just an unformed boundary?
  • 50:18 Why being alone is a great time to get to know yourself and discover who you really are
  • 53:21 Your ego is a daily battle and this is one of the main reasons that many relationships fail 
  • 59:04 In love and relationships, we often ask the wrong questions
  • 01:03:53 The different stages of love, how to find it, how to let go, and how to keep it
  • 01:06:32 What is the Flow state and how does this help you perform better in life?
  • 01:08:39 What can you do when you’re struggling to make connections, and how do you deepen these connections?


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