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Jun 2023
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Best of: A new philosophy of love

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Sean Illing talks with Carrie Jenkins about her new book Sad Love, and her call to rethink the shape and boundaries of romantic love. In this far-ranging discussion about the meaning of romantic love, Sean and Carrie discuss the connection between love and happiness, what we should expect (and not expect) from our romantic partners, and whether or not loving a person must entail that we love only that person.

This was originally released as an episode of Vox Conversations in September 2022.

Host: Sean Illing (@seanilling), host, The Gray Area

Guest: Carrie Jenkins (@carriejenkins), writer; professor of philosophy, University of British Columbia

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