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Jun 2023
52m 3s

#165: People-Pleasing Thought Patterns &...

Mary Jelkovsky
About this episode

Have you ever said “yes” when you really meant “no”?

If so, then you might be a PEOPLE-PLEASER.

For those of us who were raised as girls and women, people-pleasing is an all too familiar way of relating to those around us. Today we are joined by Somatic Life Coach María-Victoria Albina who will help us break through these people-pleasing thought patterns and reclaim our authenticity. This conversation is equal parts entertaining and educational, thanks to María-Victoria’s joyful spirit.

You will learn about...

  • what really happens in your nervous-system when you prioritize other people’s needs above your own
  • non-obvious signs of people-pleasing and codependency
  • ways to stop yourself from people-pleasing and start being more truthful, direct, and authentic

Remember: sourcing your feelings from the outside world is a sign of codependency. Contrary to what you might’ve been taught, your value does not depend on what others think of you.

María-Victoria Albina (she/her) is a Master Certified Somatic Life Coach, UCSF-trained Family Nurse Practitioner and Breathwork Meditation Guide with a passion for helping humans socialized as women realize that they are their own best healers by reconnecting with their bodies and minds, so they can break free from codependency, perfectionism and people-pleasing and reclaim their joy.

She is the host of the Feminist Wellness Podcast, holds a Masters degree in Public Health from Boston University School of Public Health and a BA in Latin American Studies from Oberlin College. Victoria has been working in health & wellness for over 20 years and lives on occupied Munsee Lenape territory in New York’s Hudson Valley. She’s also the creator of Anchored, a 6-month coaching program and a loving, supportive community for women and afab non-binary folks, where you’ll learn new ways to respond to stress and trauma, ditch codependent, perfectionist and people pleasing habits as you learn to relate to your body, mind and emotions in healthier ways.

Follow María-Victoria on Instagram: @victoriaalbinawellness
Learn more about María-Victoria’s 6-month coaching program here: https://victoriaalbina.com/anchored

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Make sure to tag @maryspodcast and @victoriaalbinawellness

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