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Jun 2023
1h 42m

E592 Ask Nick - I Need To Stop My Soulma...

Nick Viall
About this episode

Welcome back to another episode of The Viall Files: Ask Nick Edition! We’re back to answer your burning questions about the world of dating and relationships. Before getting to our callers, we read an email about lifestyle compatibility - our writer lives a fast paced life in the city and has been talking with a guy who lives a much quieter life an hour away. Is that a red flag, or a way to balance each other out? We then get our Breakup Song of the Week submission. 

Our first caller’s soulmate is marrying someone else, and she wants to speak now before the wedding. We end up drafting (and sending!) a long text message where she confesses her feelings and asks if he would consider trying things again. Our second caller wants to break up with her boyfriend of nearly five years, and he doesn’t see it coming. There have been problems throughout their relationship, including him not wanting to go to a wedding with her because he won’t know anyone there and she isn’t fun enough to make his experience enjoyable. Our final caller matched with her boss on Hinge and is interested in him, but isn’t sure what her next move should be. They bantered back and forth in the messages, but she was the last one to reach out. 

“I don’t think you can go too hard here. You’re literally trying to break up an engagement.” 

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