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May 2023
51m 46s

The cost of secrets

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For years, Quinn held onto a terrible secret. It took a huge toll not just on their mental health, but also on their career trajectory and financial life. When Quinn learns they aren’t alone with this secret, it leads them down an astonishing path they never could have imagined.


Content warning: This episode deals with issues of grooming and sexual abuse. We hope our listeners take care while tuning in.


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