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Oct 2019
42m 55s

140: What if you were entangled in a web...

Wondery
About this episode

“It’s just confusing thinking about even today what I’m supposed to feel about the whole thing…humans aren’t really built to fully understand that kind of relationship.”

 

Producer: Whit Missildine

Editor: Whit Missildine


Episode Summary: Struggling with depression and gender dysphoria, a person finds solace in an online community, but relationships become shockingly complicated by the disruptive actions of one notorious member.


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Content/Trigger Warnings: bullying, explicit language


Intro Music: ""Illabye" – Tipper

Music Bed: “Wake Up” - Spuntic

Outro Music: "The Moon is Down" - El Diablo & Adam Schraft (Rojo y Negro) @eldiablosf @rojo-y-negro www.eldiablobass.com/

 

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