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Apr 2023
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4 Phases of Love We Go Through in Our Li...

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About this episode

Today, I am going to share with you another snippet from my latest book, 8 Rules of Love. This time, we will talk about the definition of love. 

Rule #3: Define Love Before You Think It, Feel It, Or Say It - in this chapter we break down the different phases of love and dating, the pitfalls that often lead to breakups, and the steps we can take to be more present in the relationship and form deep connections with the other person.

You can order my new book 8 RULES OF LOVE at 8rulesoflove.com or at a retail store near you. You can also get the chance to see me live on my first ever world tour. This is a 90 minute interactive show where I will take you on a journey of finding, keeping and even letting go of love. Head to jayshettytour.com and find out if I'll be in a city near you. Thank you so much for all your support - I hope to see you soon.   

Key Takeaways:

  • 00:00 Intro
  • 03:02 Rule #3: Define love before you think it, feel it, or say it 
  • 09:39 The Four Phases of Love - We rarely elaborate when we tell other people we love them
  • 14:03 Phase 1 - Attraction - In phase one, we feel a spark of intrigue, interest and attraction
  • 20:14 The Three Date Rule - Three dates usually provide enough time to determine compatibility
  • 31:35 Phase 2 - Dreams - We strive to dismantle false expectations and focus on realistic expectations
  • 32:11 False Expectations - We often have a checklist of the qualities our partners should have
  • 35:52 Rhythms and Routines - Instead of chasing the dream of what might be, spend time to get to know the other person
  • 43:31 Phase 3 - Struggle and Growth - Confronting differences and disappointments and putting in the effort to resolve them
  • 48:18 Phase 4 - Trust - The growth that you go through together builds into trust

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