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Feb 2023
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069: How Self-Pleasure and Defining Your...

KELLEY BODE
About this episode

Nobody’s sexuality looks the same so why are we so afraid to talk about it? Sex and self-pleasure are those topics that everyone’s so curious about but no one wants to be the first to put themselves out there in case their experience isn’t like everyone else’s. But that’s just the thing, you define what your pleasure looks like, so you can never be wrong!

 

Today’s episode is honoring self-pleasure with Carli Jo Cabrera, a speaker, author and Self-Pleasure guide. Kelley and Carli leave no stone unturned in their discussion about how not talking about sex and self-pleasure can make addressing the hiccups in our sex lives that much more difficult. Carli also breaks down one of her self-pleasure sessions and shares how giving yourself permission in sex translates into permission everywhere.

 

More from today’s episode:

  • How Carli dealt with meeting the perfect person but having a sex life that just felt “off”
  • The essential differences between masturbation and self-pleasure
  • The importance of communication especially in those moments when we don’t feel 100% in the mood to have sex
  • Sisterhood is so important! Having that one conversation with a friend about our sex lives can literally change our lives and perspectives on sex and pleasure
  • How permission is at the root of a healthy, turned on relationship with our partners and ourselves

 

Connect with Carli:

The Pleasure Portal: Free Community - carlijo.mn.co

The Membership, 1 month free - https://carlijo.mn.co/plans/265293?bundle_token=98c7ee45f6089fa0197a03868cf53c48&utm_source=manual

 

Connect with me:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kelleymbode

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kelley.bode.90 

Twitter: https://twitter.com/kelleybode

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