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Jan 2023
15m 31s

Why It’s Not a Good Idea to Talk About S...

Regeneration Ministries
About this episode

There are just things you don't talk about at church, right?

Absolutely not!

I think the church is meant to be a place where we talk about the things that are really the most difficult to talk about in life. If we can't do that in our church community, where will we do it?

Certainly, one of those topics is sex.

Both in its beautiful, glorious holy intention that God designed sex to be between husband and wife in marriage, and also in the fallen expressions of sex that pervade our culture.

So if you're a Pastor, layperson, or Elder at a church, maybe you're a parent or a leader in some other fashion, or perhaps you lead a youth group or a small group, I want to talk to you on this podcast about how important it is to talk about sex in some way or another. And share some light ideas about how you might begin to go there with the people who are in your care.

Sex is a very sensitive topic. Bringing it up on Sunday morning can be difficult and raise many questions. 

Questions like…

  • What if a lot of people are struggling, what do I do? 
  • How do I care for them?

These questions, in addition to the ones mentioned in this podcast, are very difficult for leaders. But I want to emphasize how important and meaningful it is when people who are in church or Christian leadership, in their home or a small group, youth group, or from the main pulpit in a church, speak up about these topics. 

Here are a few helpful ideas that can help start or strengthen the conversations about sex.

Share stories of Sexual redemption. Making use of books and resources for sexual redemption.

Borrow from other people (listen to others' sermon notes, borrow liberally without plagiarizing)

Reach out to us at Regeneration Ministries (for consultations, an interview, resources, hosting a parent group or workshop)

Resources to have available in your church:

Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing by Jay Stringer

Is God Anti-Gay? by Sam Allberry

Born Again that Way: Coming Out, Coming to Faith, and What Comes Next by Rachel Gilson

Treading Boldly through a Pornographic World: A Field Guide for Parents by Daniel Weiss and Josh Glaser

Great sermons on sexuality: Holy Sexuality - series by Bay Area Community Church

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