Many people say keep your business and personal lives separate, but with powerful communication skills, you can make anything work. Here as a perfect example are today’s guests Shayne and Jere’ Webber, Founders of Intentional Life Therapy. They are entrepreneurs of 18 years, and productively married 20 years, parents of 4 children, and still growing! Over the years they have learned how to work together, grow their businesses, expand their reach, and strengthen their love for one another.
Let’s dive right into their story as they share how you don’t have to live separate lives from your partner, and their secrets how to win at relationships as well as your business.
In this Episode:
[00:01 - 08:37] Opening Segment
- I introduce and welcome Shayne and Jere Webber
- Couple and life coaches
- Relationships and business
- Shayne and Jere share about their businesses
- Licensed marriage counselors
- Two LLC’s
- Shane sees adolescents
- Jere with high conflict couples
- Shayne and Jere’s relationship
- Not perfect but effective
- Growing constantly
- Growth in emotional maturity
- They’re other work
- Various courses
- Evaluating results
- Not manipulation but connection
[08:38 - 17:39] Adaptive Communication
- Shayne & Jere talk about they’re experience as employers
- The way you deliver the message
- Individual needs
- Learn and adapt to each other
- Shayne’s experience working with entrepreneurs
- Teaching intrapersonal skills
- Learning from different people and experiences
- Mutually beneficial
- The band together mindset
- Putting managers in charge
- Putting people in a position to make decisions
- Shayne’s example with an employee
- Showing appreciation for what they do
- Working as caregivers
- Shane’s story
- Not above anyone
[17:40 - 25:52] Managing the Business and the Personal
- Shayne and Jere share about how they manage business and relationships
- Becoming more humble and efficient
- Is this important to argue about?
- Accepting feedback
- Humility is a strength not a weakness
- Don’t be stubborn
- Get other perspectives
- Jere talks about communication with Shayne
- Taking the serious ideas only
- Writing down ideas
- Jere shares about managing the balance
- Balancing between strengths and weaknesses
- No playing unhelpful games
- Learning to understand the other person
[25:53 - 42:22] The Communication of Counselors; “The Jedi Mind Tricks”
- Jere shares about asking the right questions
- Ways of getting information that makes people think
- Shane’s keys to great questions
- Paying real attention
- Showing interest in what is being said
- Use intuition and your own thoughts
- Follow up with sincerity
- Jere talks about the trust building process
- Connect and establish trust
- Get them to talk about themselves
- Draw out the inner without alerting defenses
- Shayne and Jere’s thoughts on communicating that you care
- Practicing humility
- Connecting a meaningful level
- Reach out when you think of someone
- Reading body language
- Building rapport first
- Notice how people mirror you
- Bare cultural differences in mind
- Making people feel safe using body language
[42:23 - 56:37] Closing Segment
- The most impactful conversation of your life?
- Jere’s example with her mom
- Conversations with each other
- Third date story
- Shayne’s example of people who believed in him
- One communication skill that you could have had?
- Jere talks about speaking candidly
- Making people feel important to you
- The best communicator that you know?
- Shayne’s example from his college professor
- Building people up
- How to find Shayne and Jere
- Links below
- It’s not about being right, it’s about softening
- Final Words
Tweetable Quotes:
"We just have to learn and adapt to each other… I’ve been married 20 years and we’re still learning, and we’re getting better. I’d say that it’s even more fun now in a lot of ways than even in the beginning.” - Shayne Webber
“If you’re going to make it as a couple, if you’re going to make it as a business, then you need to be open to feedback.” - Shayne Webber
“It took us a lot of time to get to the point of understanding what our thoughts were, what intentions were, what our needs were… Once I grew in that area, It made life a lot easier…” - Jere Webber
Resources Mentioned:
You can connect with Shayne and Jere the Next Level Couples Facebook and by going to their website https://www.intentionallifetherapy.com.
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