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Jan 2023
34m 56s

Episode 162: Creative Monogamy

DR. JUSTIN LEHMILLER
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Many of us have a mold for what romantic relationships “should” look like, and then we try to make our own relationships fit that. But, no matter how hard we try, sometimes it just doesn’t fit. And that’s because we’re going about relationships all wrong. Instead of building relationships on a set of things you think you’re “supposed” to do, we n ... Show More
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