Grief is real and a process, we don't like or enjoy. When brokenness and matters of a broken heart require healing, you have to allow yourself to go through the grieving process of; shock, denial, bargaining, and depression before you get to acceptance. What I know for sure about loss of a loved one, marriage or job etc. is, it takes as long as it takes you, to feel it, work through it and once you get to the other side, its like turning a caterpillar (going into a cocoon) to reappear as a beautiful butterfly. It's not fun, but you can get through it.