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Dec 2022
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How to Call People In (Instead of Callin...

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If you’re tired of the venom, preening, and predatory listening so common on all sides of our various cultural divides, this episode is for you. 

My guest today is Loretta Ross, who believes that “calling out,” which is quite common on social media these days, is adding way too much toxicity to the discourse and alienating people who might otherwise be allies. Instead, she believes in “calling in,” which steadfastly insists on a large measure of grace, and rejects the impulse to dehumanize. 

On today’s show, Loretta offers a compelling mode of engagement that is insistently open-minded and large-hearted, no matter where you stand on the political divide. 

Loretta describes herself as a radical Black feminist, activist, and public intellectual. She’s a visiting Associate Professor at Smith College, and she also teaches an online course called, Calling in the Calling Out Culture

Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/loretta-ross-316-rerun

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