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Oct 2022
17m 33s

When the Music Stopped

The New York Times
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Growing up in Brooklyn, Sonia Pérez recalled how her father would drink beer, sit on the sofa and lose himself in records from Puerto Rico, where he grew up. One day, he stopped listening. Sonia and her siblings wondered why.  

On the other side of the world, in Ireland, Grainne Armstrong recalls the moment she experienced her daughter’s love for the first time, set to a soundtrack of opera and birdsong. 

Today, two stories about a parent and child longing for a deeper connection – and how music sparked their understanding of one another.

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