This is a good one that I know lots of people need to hear, myself included. So many of us lack the skills or the confidence to establish boundaries which can make or keep us unhealthy, unhappy and unfulfilled. Luckily, the friends of our show are experts who are excited to help us learn. In this episode, Psychiatrist Dr. Maryna Mammoliti and I discuss Setting Healthy Boundaries. She offers insightful examples to help us understand why setting boundaries is so important to maintaining our personal peace and accomplishing our goals. We had such a great conversation in which we answered the following questions:
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- As a psychiatrist, how did Dr. Mammoliti become interested in coaching around boundaries?
- What is the difference between therapy and coaching?
- How does systemic gender bias interfere with our ability to set boundaries?
- What are boundaries and what do they define?
- Why is the word 'no' an affront?
- How do we gain the confidence to start saying no?
- Why is knowing who we are so important to boundary setting?
- Do people need to be informed of our boundaries? If so, who?
- How do we deal with barriers to maintaining boundaries?
- What is the potential cost of setting boundaries versus the cost of not setting boundaries?
- How can we evaluate if the cost is worth it?
- How do we prepare to announce boundaries and for the reactions of others?
- What happens when our boundary reveals an inherent conflict in a relationship?
- What if that conflict cannot be overcome?
- How can we support our children asserting boundaries, especially if we are not yet comfortable?
- Why is important to manage our own reactions to the boundaries of others?
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Dr. Maryna Mammoliti is a practicing Canadian-trained psychiatrist, professional coach, and mother of four. In her psychiatric practice she has worked on promoting physician health, focusing on ADHD, trauma and eating disorders. She has completed her coaching training through the College of Executive Coaching. She co-founded Triumph Excellence and Coaching Centre Ltd with her colleague Adam Ly through which they collaborate on providing leadership, career and professional coaching services, educational webinars and workshops. Dr. Mammoliti focuses on boundaries, career transitions and emotional intelligence in her coaching and is the co-author of upcoming book for physicians: Saving Lives Without Destroying Yours: Boundaries for the Modern Physician. She enjoys working with medical students and residents in her clinic and has been involved in various initiatives to support physicians during COVID-19 pandemic. Aside from clinical experience and coaching, she has been involved in advocating for the systemic issues as the outgoing OMA psychiatry section chair.
Dr. Mammoliti is the mother of four children and spends her time between Canada and the US. She enjoys writing about issues relevant to physicians not usually found in our classrooms (including violence faced by physicians).
Website: https://www.triumphleader.com
IG: @triumphleadercoach @ drmomlifeincanada
Twitter: DRMMCanada
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