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Aug 2022
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5 Essential Skills to Grow your Emotiona...

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About this episode

In today’s episode, we cover leadership with Dr. Karyn Gordon. Dr. Karyn Gordon is the CEO and co-founder of DK Leadership, a TED Talk speaker, and the Wall Street Journal Bestselling author of The Three Chairs: How Great Leaders Drive Communication, Performance, and Engagement. 

Leadership skills are great for anyone to have, but they are crucial if you want to get ahead professionally, so what are the signs you need to work on your leadership skills, what can you do to work on them, and what’s the best way to ask for feedback so you know you’re improving? 

What to Listen For

  • Introduction – 0:00
  • What are the five components of emotional intelligence?
  • Signs your leadership skills are lacking – 18:11 
  • What are some signs you need to work on your leadership skills before you shoot for a leadership position?
  • What exercise can you do with your team at work to identify weak spots in your leadership skills?
  • The best way to ask for feedback – 24:45
  • What can you do to ask your manager or supervisor for feedback that shows your willingness to excel within the company?
  • What are the three chairs of leadership? – 41:03
  • Who has the hardest time setting boundaries and what can you do to improve your ability to set better boundaries?

Leaders with a high emotional intelligence can inspire their followers to achieve great things. If you’re aspiring to be a leader, or are currently in a leadership position and feel like you could use some improvement, start by working on your emotional intelligence. There are many ways to do this, but one of the best is simply to ask for feedback. Let your manager or supervisor know that you want to excel within the company and that you’re willing to work hard to improve any areas where they see potential for growth. Then take that feedback and turn it into action. Finally, remember that setting boundaries is an important part of being a good leader. It can be difficult to say no sometimes, but it’s crucial if you want to maintain your own sanity (and health) while leading others. 

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