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Aug 2022
45m 17s

S2, Ep 3 Best Friend Therapy: Jealousy -...

Emma Reed Turrell
About this episode
Welcome to Best Friend Therapy, where we chat about what's on our minds, to get deeper in our minds, and this week we're talking about jealousy.

Do you have a touch of the green-eyed monster?

Well, that might not be a bad thing. Because jealousy can show up to tell us when a relationship we value requires some maintenance - we jealously guard something because it matters to us.

Sometimes that relationship will be with a friend or loved one, but sometimes the relationship that needs our attention is the one we have with ourselves.

In this episode, Elizabeth and Emma share with brutal honesty the times in their lives they have felt jealous, and Emma challenges the dangerous idea that we should feel flattered or gracious when someone else is jealous of us.

Emma reveals her avoidant side and why she'd rather just play in a different sandpit, and Elizabeth reveals that she can get you whatever you need from the Dark Web. JK.

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Elizabeth's How to Fail episode with Alain de Botton can be heard here: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/how-to-fail-with-elizabeth-day/id1407451189?i=1000452022015

Emma talks about the work of Freud and Bowlby in terms of attachment and object relations, you can read more about it here:

https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/best-friend-therapy/id1614793299?i=1000556922612

You can listen to the BFT episodes of Shoulds and Oughts and Special Occasions here:

https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/best-friend-therapy/id1614793299?i=1000556922612
https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/best-friend-therapy/id1614793299?i=1000556922612

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Best Friend Therapy is hosted by Elizabeth Day and Emma Reed Turrell, produced by Chris Sharp. To contact us, email contact@bestfriendtherapy.co.uk

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Social Media:

Elizabeth Day @elizabday

Emma Reed Turrell @emmareedturrell

Best Friend Therapy @best.friend.therapy
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