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Jun 2022
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#166: But it is My Mother……

Dr. Heidi
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Many struggle with the toxic parent. The guilt, the obligation, the dedication to them giving you life. What do we do when a parent is controlling aspects of your life, our emotions, our outside relationships, and our own view of ourselves? You actually do have permission to choose yourself. You are not punishing them when you do this, you are freeing yourself from the toxicity they have and are bringing into your present life. Listen now how one woman chose herself and her own life over the constant demands of a toxic mother.

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