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Sep 2019
37m 41s

Iyanla: Fix My Fatherless Family

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Iyanla travels to Newark, New Jersey, to help two sons who are trying to heal from a lifetime of abandonment by their father. Son Isaam tells Iyanla that he has spent decades living in pain because of his distant relationship with his father. He and his brother Chon recall how their father was in and out of their lives, sometimes disappearing for years at a time. Despite trying to mend the relationship, Issam and Chon say their father has continued to disappoint them and to lie to them. Just when they had given up for good, however, they received a phone call from a brother they never knew they had. Now, their father, John, is ready to face the sons he abandoned and finally introduce them to the brother he kept a secret for years. Iyanla's challenge is to help all four men on to the path of forgiveness, before their relationship is destroyed forever.

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