So parents... let's have a frank conversation. I completely understand that once y'all had children, things change in your life. I find that there is a big difference between the couples that make sure that their relationship stays a priority versus those who put the kids first before their relationship.
I don't think that you're a bad partner or spouse if you have put your kids before your spouse. It's not about good or bad. It's not about right or wrong. What this is about is recognizing reality - if you are not prioritizing your relationship you're not going to have a relationship.