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Mar 2021
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Heartbreak: Not Everything That You Lose...

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About this episode

"These mountains that you are carrying, you were only supposed to climb."

Beautiful words from one of my absolute favorite poems written by Najwa Zebian who is today's special guest on the pod. 

Heartbreak and pain are sometimes inevitable, so how do we grieve relationships that end, how do we process loss that comes with a broken heart and most importantly how do learn to trust ourselves again?

Najwa Zebian, a Lebanese-Canadian activist, poet, educator and speaker is the author of three poetry books and her fourth book is on its way to be released this summer! In today's episode we delve into the topic of heartbreak, pain and loss. Three things that we have all experienced at one point or another in our lives.

In previous episodes we have talked about the importance of staying single until we are comfortable with being single and on the opposite spectrum we have discussed heavy topics such as abuse. I think it's now time to talk about experiencing heartbreak and the all too familiar feeling of being swallowed up by pain.

I asked Najwa, why is it so hard to walk away from someone that you know isn't good for you? Why do we choose to not believe that a better love exists out there?

At times we can be so mystified by the words of someone, the same someone who can easily walk out on us without a goodbye. How do we stop ourselves from thinking that if we love them harder, they'll finally love us right back? Why do we try to salvage the pieces of a broken relationship rather than save ourselves?

Najwa beautifully explains the art of building a home within us rather than finding it in others. She takes us on a journey of explaining heartache and how we can grow from the hurt and on the way we can learn to protect ourselves without necessarily building a cage around us.

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