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Mar 2022
18m 51s

How Leaders Can ‘Play Better Poker’

Essential Communications - Tom Henschel
About this episode

A missed promotion prompts a leader to complain to her CEO. The CEO responds by getting her a coach, which results in explorations of authenticity, self-awareness and self-management.

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This episode is tagged in three categories in the Podcast Library:


Managing Yourself

Perception - How You Perceive Yourself

Perception - How You’re Perceived


Seven related episodes you might listen to are: 

#71 – Act “As If”

#204 – Blind Spots

#110 – Creating New Behaviors

#103 – Self-Awareness & Self-Management

#85 – Stop Giving Away Your Secrets

#190 – Thinking Errors

#51 – When Learning Makes Things Worse


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