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Jan 2022
1h 36m

Love Stories: Recovering from Infidelity...

DR. ALEXANDRA SOLOMON
About this episode

On this Love Stories episode, Dr. Alexandra welcomes on a couple with a stunning story of rebuilding their marriage in the aftermath of infidelity: Kristi Born & Rainier Wylde. Together, they explore the story of their relationship, starting from the day they first met, to the early years of their marriage, to the moment of rupture, and the incredible journey of repair that they continue today. Their story gives us the opportunity to empathize with the pain of infidelity, as well as providing insights about what rebuilding trust can look when both partners are committed to walking forward together.

Dr. Alexandra’s E-Course: Can I Trust You Again? Rebuilding After Betrayal or Deceit

https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/can-i-trust-you-again-rebuilding-after-betrayal-or-deceit

Subscribe to Dr. Alexandra’s Newsletter:

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Books on infidelity and related topics:

What Makes Love Last?: How to Build Trust and Avoid Betrayal (John Gottman)

New Monogamy: Redefining Your Relationship After Infidelity (Tammy Nelson)

The State of Affairs (Esther Perel)

The Book of Forgiving: The Fourfold Path for Healing Ourselves and Our World (Desmond Tutu & Mpho Tutu)

The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma (Bessel Van Der Kolk)

Kristi's website:

https://www.kristiborn.com/

Rainier's website:

https://www.rainierwylde.com/

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