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Jan 2022
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Episode 70: The Rise of Cuckolding

DR. JUSTIN LEHMILLER
About this episode
Cuckolding refers to a sexual practice in which someone finds it arousing to watch their partner have sex with another person. I first learned about cuckolding nearly a decade ago and, in the years since, its popularity has exploded. Google searches for it are on the rise, it's increasing mentioned and depicted in the popular media, and it regularly emerges among the top porn searches in the world year in and year out. There's even a new annual tradition called #CuckWeek, aimed at celebrating the cuckold lifestyle. So why are so many people into cuckolding? For insight, I spoke with Dr. David Ley and Rose Caraway. David Ley is a clinical psychologist, sex therapist, and author of the book Insatiable Wives: Women Who Stray and the Men Who Love Them, which was just released on audiobook. Rose narrated the audiobook for Insatiable Wives and is host of Kiss Me Quick's Erotica Podcast. Some of the topics we explore in this show include:
  • How cuckolding can be sexually empowering for women.
  • The diverse motivations behind why men want to watch their partners have sex with other people (there isn't just one reason!).
  • How common cuckolding fantasies are, and who's most likely to have them.
  • How cuckolding is distinct from cheating.
  • How cuckolding relationships tend to work out.
  • What people who are thinking about exploring cuckolding need to know.
  • How to bring sex to life as an audiobook narrator.
For more on cuckolding, be sure to check out the new audiobook for Insatiable Wives!

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