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Dec 2021
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9 Mistakes We Make in Love and Relations...

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About this episode

You can order my new book 8 RULES OF LOVE at 8rulesoflove.com or at a retail store near you. You can also get the chance to see me live on my first ever world tour. This is a 90 minute interactive show where I will take you on a journey of finding, keeping and even letting go of love. Head to jayshettytour.com and find out if I'll be in a city near you. Thank you so much for all your support - I hope to see you soon.

What are your expectations in your current relationship? Do you wish for your partner to like the things that you like, enjoy the things that you enjoy doing, and share the same passion with you? Or do you want your partner to carve their own path along with you?

In many relationships, this idealism that your partner needs to like what you like, love what you love, and hate what you hate in the pretext that it should be how they show their love for you can be toxic. It can strip away your partner's identity and freedom. It can be suffocating.

In this episode of On Purpose, Jay Shetty tells us the common mistakes we make that don't help our relationships grow and what you can do now to strengthen it.

Get your copy of Think Like a Monk today by clicking this link!
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Key Takeaways:

  • 00:00 Intro
  • 01:41 The mistakes we make in a relationship
  • 02:58 Mistake #1: We make someone our everything
  • 07:28 Mistake #2: You’re with someone for they could be, not for who they are
  • 12:33 Mistake #3: You stay too long because you’re scared to be seen as the bad person
  • 15:04 Mistake #4: We trade time with our partners instead of creating new experiences
  • 16:39 Mistake #5: You want them to like what you like
  • 18:12 Mistake #6: You don’t take the time to understand why they are the way they are
  • 20:06 Mistake #7: You talk to too many people but not to the person you’re in a relationship with
  • 21:31 Mistake #8: You’re mad at them for the sacrifices you made that they didn’t ask for
  • 23:47 Mistake #9: Know the difference between ownership, partnership, and relationship

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