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Nov 2021
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S4 Ep365: The Benefits of Being Vulnerab...

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Did you know that being intentionally vulnerable (in the right situations!) can actually make people think more highly of you? It's called 'The Beautiful Mess Effect.' Time to get rid of the shame we all feel about our flaws. Kathleen is giving the social science deets about why perfection is no longer perfect. Then, Bethany’s keeping a stranglehold on Spooky Season by talking about the mysterious death of America’s Favorite Goth, Edgar Allen Poe. (And what does voter fraud have to do with it??) Plus, Bebe gives tips on how to stay warm (thus avoiding “performative coldness” and, as always, the ladies play your voicemails!


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KATHLEEN’S SOURCES:
Scientific American, “Other People Don’t Think You Are A Mess.”https://apple.news/Av4Vg9Oi-ST2gauGXf2PJVw
https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2019/01/beautiful-mess-vulnerability/579892/
https://rubinmuseum.org/events/exhibitions/a-monument-for-the-anxious-and-hopeful
https://digest.bps.org.uk/2018/08/02/the-beautiful-mess-effect-other-people-view-our-vulnerability-more-positively-than-we-do/
https://psycnet.apa.org/record/2018-34832-002


BETHANY’S SOURCES:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Edgar_Allan_Poe
https://icytales.com/top-5-theories-behind-edgar-allan-poes-death/
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Death_of_Edgar_Allan_Poe
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Raven
“The Raven,” full text https://www.google.com/books/edition/The_Raven/8mVIAQAAMAAJ?hl=en&gbpv=1&printsec=frontcover
The Simpson’s “The Raven” https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bLiXjaPqSyY
Buzzfeed Unsolved: the Macabre Death of Edgar Allen Poe https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y4DTW4B3Sjs
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EtRFL6-RAb8&list=PLxtlnNcem0-XCEJ2jedatqrT2tHzbJKlc&index=72

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